Friday, December 18, 2009

The gentle direction of Mother de Chantal

Letters of Spiritual Direction
The Letters of Jane de Chantal

Discussion Group 2:
David Purdy, Taisali Leuluai, Tresphord Chisanga, Duoc Le

What struck you?

Jane de Chantal had a variety of diverse directees, and the advice that she gives seems general, but yet particular as needed.

The directees shared mainly “faults” and not sins
  • Encouraging words
  • Common sense approach, sprinkled with charity
  • Her letters to Madame du Tertre are many: Jane had to write many letters to help Madame Tertre (p219)
Letter to the Bishop of Bourges (her brother, André Fremiot)
  • Addressed him respectfully as “my lord”
  • In the body of the letter spoke to him as brother, she starts giving gentle advice to him, “when you have committed some faults go to him humbly and say I’m sorry.” (p203)
The language and tone in the letters of Jane de Chantal
  • Language is very assuring and affirming
  • Tone is neutral, not emotional
She had a reputation of being a good advisor. It seems that her directees are comfortable enough with her that they share even the smallest aspects of their lives; they are open with her. Is this not the highest point of trust between a devotee and a director?

Jane attributes her spiritual life to St. Francis in her first letter

One difficulty in this collection of letters is the absence of letters from the directée. There are only letters from Jane published, which makes it difficult to put into context at times.

What is new for you?
  • In a comparative way to other spiritual guides, her approach is gentle
  • Compared to Francis de Sales, Jane de Chantal did not use as many examples or imagery to make a point. Her language is very simple.

What is confirming for you?
  • Jane is a good example of a “good neighbor”, loves God!
  • Live Jesus!

Submitted by Duoc Van Le
Photo by Joe Boenzi: Visitation (St Paul, Minnesota): hands help and welcome

Tuesday, December 15, 2009

Humility, prudence and sincerity: keys to authority

Jane de Chantal as Spiritual Director


Francis de Sales, Jane de Chantal: Letters of Spiritual Direction, pp. 183 - 266
Group 1 – Seung Yong Yi, Joseph Pampackal and Jim Heuser
December 15, 2009

(1) What strikes us from the reading?


A general comment: Jane, through her letters, shows great skill at spiritual direction.  She manifests her love, humility and motherly concern as well as her effectiveness with soft and gentle persuasion.  The Salesian spirit is clearly the guiding motive force in her approach.  Like Francis de Sales, she promotes a spirituality that is not stressful, rigorous, impetuous and overeager.  These themes recur time and again in her letters to diverse correspondents.

In the Advice to the Countess de Toulonjon, Jane advises her daughter to do some spiritual reading every day for 15 to 30 minutes, to pray with aspirations throughout the day, and to close each day with an examen of conscience and prayer to God (pp. 218 – 219).  The emphasis seems to be on simplicity in prayer, yet daily faithfulness.  This strikes us as very akin to the advice of Don Bosco.

(2) How does this reading present something new?

It is remarkable to see the manner in which Jane dealt with Madame du Terte (Marie-Aimée de Morville), who troubled her and a Visitandine convent for 13 years.  Her letters (pp. 221 – 228) begin with the endearing address, “My very dear daughter.”  She displays her great fund of patience and her talent of persuasion in steering the woman round until she is converted and chose to be faithful to her Visitandine life.  It is truly remarkable patience with a Sister who appears to have been a veritable affliction for Jane and a convent.

Not having much acquaintance with the Visitation, some of the practical aspects of their structure were new for us.  For example, the welcoming of widows and/or women retreatants for a temporary time (p. 234) and the acceptance into the community of women with physical infirmities “unless they had a contagious disease” (p. 252).

(3) What was confirming for us in the reading?

While on the one hand there appears to be openness to receiving into the Visitation a wide array of women, on the other hand Jane is clear that good discernment, selection and testing of vocations is needed.  The letter to Mother Paule-Jéronyme de Monthoux p. 243 – 245) has some clear advice: “… let us learn from experience that we must test and know the vocation of young women before receiving them;”  “Before receiving young women, I would like you to have them examined by some good religious …;” “Before receiving a young women, you should discern if she has a firm, constant desire for the vocation;” “… do what I have suggested before allowing them to enter the novitiate or giving them the habit or professing them;” “… make good choices of candidates and do not hesitate in the least to send them away if they are not suitable.”  We find this wisdom very similar to that found in Don Bosco’s Dream of the Ten Diamonds.

In a letter entitled “To a Superior” Jane writes, “I do not choose the most capable or most virtuous Sisters to be superiors, but rather those who I see have the God-given talent of governing well” (p. 252).  She goes on to indicate that neither the intelligent nor attractive in the eyes of the world, neither the devout nor genuinely holy, are successful as superiors unless they really know how to govern.  She identifies the virtues of humility, prudence and sincerity as key to the good practice of authority.  Hers is quite a practical insight into leadership … and culled, clearly, from her own experience.  We think it holds true today as well.

A general comment:  Her letters to diverse superiors are filled with much practical wisdom as regards how to deal with the members of the community in an effective manner.  There is a definite stress on patience; on never correcting publicly; on remaining at peace when leadership is resisted; on not taking anything personally; on not striving to control; on governing with expansiveness of heart and absolute liberty of spirit.  As the foundress, along with Francis, Jane grasped best the Salesian spirit.  Yet it would take time and patient effort to have that spirit imbibed and absorbed by the others.

Submitted by Jim Heuser

Wednesday, December 9, 2009

God is the meeting place

Letters of Spiritual Direction
Letters of Francis de Sales

Discussion Group 2
David Purdy, Taisali Leuluai, Duoc Le

What struck you:

Francis uses a humanistic approach to woman.
“Francis directs the troubled young woman to a more realistic
appreciation of her own limitations and the imperfections of others,
and to greater trust in God’s providence.” (p. 95)
Have measurable goals, not far reaching goals (p. 96)

•   The virtue of patience that one must be patient with others, but
most importantly we must be patient with ourselves
•   Endure Patiently the imperfections, and not love or embrace our own
imperfections.
•   The richness of themes expressed in the letters (p123)
  • Warm expression of personal caring and concern
  • Friendships as a gift of God
  • Nourishing and sustaining Friendships
  • Recognition of maturity of relationship
It is important to know how to support others in times of Trials. Francis doesn’t give them an answer, but gives them a different perspective, challenging them to look at their current situation with
a new perspective
  • A perspective of forgiving oneself
  • Accepting one’s limitation
  • And beginning again as needed with a touch humor
  • Worry not, God will render the effort fruitful
  • Learn to let go of issues out of your control
  • Be at peace and be practical
Confirming:

•   For Francis, God is the meeting place for everyone (through prayer)
•   Francis’ approach to spiritual direction in his letters is calmness
and kindness
•   Francis often pulls in examples from the everyday life of the women
he writes to in order to effectively guide the women
•   Francis does not criticize upon hearing of a particular situation,
but rather he helps the directee be in context with the situation
•   Aside from the letters being a spiritual guide, it seems that the
Francis is also guiding the women on how to deal with their emotions.
•   A characteristic of a good Spiritual director is someone who is
always affirming and assuring to those he help (Page 130)

Submitted by Duoc Van Le
Photo by Joe Boenzi: Francis de Sales Writer, St Teresa Parish, Ljubljana (25 April 2006

Tuesday, December 8, 2009

Doing all with great humility and gentle patience


Letters of Spiritual Direction
Discussion Group


Brian Rebholtz
Tresphord Chisanga
Sung Han Lee
What’s New/What Struck Us?

The letters would be more interesting if we had St. Jane’s letters. St. Jane did the world a huge disfavor by burning her letters to St. Francis!

St. Francis has a very direct, forthright manner of addressing his directees. He also has an integrative spirituality that encompasses almost all aspects of human life in a comprehensive theological vision. This is impressive, but also very counter-cultural for 21st century post-modern North Americans, who tend to isolate and separate the different pieces of our life.

St. Francis’ imaginative spirituality has an Ignatian flavor, and yet his use of imagination is more free and less tied to scriptural imagery. His style of finding popular images to convey the Gospel could definitely transfer to contemporary preaching.

What’s Confirmed?

Sweet ways every day! St. Francis’ letters are full of gentle advice and simple remonstrations of Gospel living. His spirit is always intensely pastoral and practical.

A life of prayer – St. Francis did all things with great humility and patience. He even prayed over the letters he wrote! We all agreed that St. Francis’ prayerfulness is a virtue to be imitated in vocational life.

Submitted by Brian Rebholtz
Photo by Joe Boenzi: Sun Han Lee in class (22 October 2009)

Thursday, December 3, 2009

Appealing to the whole person

Bond of Perfection


Discussion Group 
David Purdy, Taisali Leuluai, Duoc Le

Things that strike you:

The nature of Salesian Spirituality
  • pastoral
  • gentle
  • feminine
  • mercy not condemnation
  • deep interest in all that is human, especially in affection
  • openness to God, to others
  • devout prayer life
  • Relational
  • Not structured, flexible
  • More of the heart, then the head (Ignatian)
“Live Jesus!”

The Consistency that Christians should live, by always keeping in mind, heart and actions the Life Death & Resurrection of Christ

Salesian Spirituality begins from your own heart and not outside

Themes
  • Page 54: Salesian Spirituality is not a desert experience in which the spiritual experience begins by calling one out of the world.
  • Francis has vast expertise and charisma
    • active bishop
    • writer
    • advocate of lay vocation
    • preacher
    • preacher to the code
    • reformer
  • Page 51:  “The great method of prayer is  to have no method at all”
What was new for us:

Francis and Jane (To become Christ for others)
  • Take Jesus name
  • Our actions should be His actions
  • Former understanding that Salesian Spirituality was only from Francis, but that of both Francis and Jane
What confirmed what we already believed

Page 10: In order to follow Jesus Christ one must empty oneself
  • This process in Christian life is called ascetic life
    • Sacrament of Baptism
  • Paul to Galatians, “I no longer live, but Christ lives in me.”
    • To build a good relationship takes time
Page 59:  In the Salesian Direction, “the point is not to instruct but to appeal to the whole person”
  • mind
  • body
  • emotion
Discussion of 1 December 2009
Submitted by Duoc Van Le
Photo by Joe Boenzi: Duoc’s birthday party

      Emptying self to follow Jesus Christ


      The Bond of Perfection

      Group 2: Fr. Dave, Fr. Tres, Fr. Tai, Duoc
      What struck you:
      ·      The nature of Salesian Spirituality
      o      pastoral
      o      gentle
      o      feminine
      o      mercy not condemnation
      o      deep interest in all that is human, especially in affection
      o      openness to God, to others
      o      devout prayer life
      o      Relational
      o      Not structured, flexible
      o      More of the heart, then the head (Ignatian)
      ·      “Live Jesus!”
      ·      The Consistency that Christians should live, by always keeping in mind, heart and actions the Life Death and Resurrection of Christ
      ·      Salesian Spirituality begins from your own heart and not outside
      ·      Themes
      ·      Salesian Spirituality is not a desert experience in which the spiritual experience begins by calling one out of the world (p. 54).
      ·      Francis has vast expertise and charism

      • active bishop
      • writer
      • advocate of lay vocation
      • preacher
      • preacher to the code
      • reformer

        ·      “The great method of prayer is to have no method at all” (p. 51)

        What was new for you: Francis and Jane (To become Christ for others)
        • Take Jesus name
        • Our actions should be His actions
        • Former understanding that Salesian Spirituality was only from Francis, but that of both Francis and Jane

        What was confirmed for you:

        In order to follow Jesus Christ one must empty oneself (page 10). This process in Christian life is called ascetic life

        • Sacrament of Baptism
        • Paul to Galatians, “ I no longer live, but Christ lives in me.”
        Building a good relationship takes time. In the Salesian Direction, the point is not to instruct but to appeal to the whole person” (page 59):  
        • mind 
        • body 
        • emotion
        Submitted by Duoc Van Le
        Photo by Joe Boenzi: Stain glass at Francis de Sales Retreat House, Umori Meghalia (29 July 2009)

        Tuesday, December 1, 2009

        Six themes of Salesian spirituality


        Francis de Sales, Jane de Chantal: Letters of Spiritual Direction, Introduction
        Discussions - Group 1
        Seung Yong Yi, Joseph Pampackal and Jim Heuser
        December 1, 2009


        (1) What strikes us from the reading?

        In general, the entire Introduction, and especially the presentation of six themes of Salesian spirituality, was appreciated very much by the members of our group.  At one and the same time it was both comprehensive – (1) appreciation of all that is human, (2) living between the two wills of God, (3) the spirituality of daily life, (4) absolute liberty of spirit, (5) the priority of the interior/the heart, and (6) the significance of little things – as well as insightful.  It would seem worth our while to personally return to these pages for reflection now and again.

        The emphasis on beauty within Salesian spirituality was somewhat striking.  The historical part of the introduction highlighted that Francis de Sales encountered a philosophy of beauty that was current in Padua during his years of study there, a philosophy which impacted him decisively (p.22).  And then the reflection on the first theme (appreciation of all that is human) indicated how the appreciation of beauty, the contemplation of beauty, the love of beauty are central to the Christian humanism as espoused and lived by Francis (p.36).  We wonder if we today give this sufficient attention – and what it might mean if we did.

        (2) How does this reading present something new?

        The goal of the Christian life has always been living in the mystery of God through identification with – indeed, union with – Jesus.  In the words of Paul, “I live no longer but Christ lives in me.”  That in itself is not new.  But the succinct and evocative expression of it by Francis and Jane as “Live Jesus!” is both insightful and very appealing.  The phrase could be well used to sum up, in our preaching to and teaching of both adults and young people, our Christian identity as rooted in baptism.

        In the discussion of the fifth theme (the priority of the interior/the heart), mention is made of Francis’ reflection on the two alternating movements of love: love of complacence and love of benevolence (p. 57) as found in the Treatise.  These designations were new for us.  Love of complacence appears to be a drawing in of God’s goodness and life while love of benevolence appears to be a breathing forth of that goodness and life on others and the world. 

        (3) What was confirming for us in the reading?

        “All director/directee relationships might be viewed as spiritual friendships” (p. 14).  Indeed, this has been the Salesian approach that we each have experienced as we grew up in Salesian contexts, whether in Korea, India or the United States.  The relationship is much more than a simply a “professional” relationship (as some other systems may describe spiritual direction), but rather a journeying together, with the potential of the radical transformation of both parties.  “In any long-term relationship of depth, two persons give birth to each other, creating each other anew in the interaction that transpires between them” (pp.11-12).  We note this in a particular way in Don Bosco’s relationship with young people: he transformed them, while they transformed him.

        “[Francis de Sales] asserted that in preaching the Word one’s words must come out of the heart as well as the mouth. … ‘[H]eart speaks to heart, the tongue speaks but to the ears’” (p. 58).  It is a good reminder to us for our own preaching today, which perhaps can suffer from too much intellectualization on the one hand, or superficiality and triteness on the other.

        Relationships can be vehicles to devotion

        Francis de Sales & Jane de Chantal
        Letters of Spiritual Direction - Introduction


        Discussion Group:
        Brian Rebholtz
        Tresphord Chisanga
        Sung Han Lee
        What’s New

        I did not realize that St. Francis de Sales’ Christian humanism influenced his own teaching on Christian perfection. For St. Francis Christian perfection was indeed possible, but unlike later holiness movements, he insisted that men and women cultivate indifference as to their own spiritual progress. For St. Francis, pursuing perfection actually removes the promise offered by spiritual perfection.

        St. Jane de Chantal’s vision of herself as an uncarved block is fascinating. This suggests a deep relationality in Jane’s piety, even though she was committed to prayer without words and images.

        What’s Challenging

        The emphasis on liberty can be difficult to apply in the present. The insights of M. Montessori suggest that it is actually in earliest childhood that the capacities for spiritual and personal agency are firmly developed, and for those children who are abused, neglected and abandoned during those years, the development of capacities to know and think and love can be severely afflicted. To what extent does Christian humanism take into account that all people are NOT given equal opportunity to grow and flourish in this world?

        What’s Confirming

        St. Francis’ understanding that God refashions the human heart in the midst of the world as well as in the serenity of the cloister is always deeply refreshing for me. I am challenged and inspired by the notion that Christians can imagine relationships as the vehicles of devotion rather than obstacles to devotion (as St. Teresa of Avila would have it).

        Likewise, I resonate deeply with the idea that devotion is nothing less than “making Jesus live.” In other words, true devotion is life lived within the radiant experience of a personal relationship with God that flows out into the world and onto others.

        Submitted by Brian Rebholtz
        Photo by Joe Boenzi:  Tresphord Chisanga in class (22 October 2009)

        Tuesday, November 24, 2009

        How difficult is is for men to understand a woman's perpective


        Bond of Perfection
        Chapter Three
        Discussion Group 2
        David Purdy, Taisali Leuluai, Duoc Le


        St Jane de Chantal - Oil on Canvas, St Louis Visitation

        What strikes you / what is new?

        The materials covered in Bond of Perfection are at times difficult to read. We’re men reading this book, and sharing the perspective of men, how would women react to reading this book?

        Aristotle maintained that “men are always superior, women are not equal to men.” However, among Christians and especially in a monastic life there is no distinction in terms of age or gender.

        Is it possible to live a perfect celibate life in monastic life? It’s been proven (cf. pg 12, a Document): Acts of Paul and Tecla. “In the new dispensation, men and women were partners.” Women in monastic life are liberated from the stereotypes of society (inferior to men).

        Threefold aspect of Relationships from Jeanne de Chantal: a) relationship with God; b) relationship with humans (seen in her relationship with Francis); c) relationship with herself. What Jeanne learns from this experience is that in order to perfect the human relationship, one must have a deep intimate relationship with God.

        Christian Relationships: twofold dimension (p. 202): Divine Relationship (our relationship with God and God’s relationship with us); Human Relationship

        In the introduction to the book, Wendy Wright describes how Francis understood the need for such a spiritual friendship and how he drew boundaries. When dealing with any penitent who was a woman he would begin the spiritual direction relationship by placing the relationship/dialogue in the hands of Our Lady and ask that other than Christ, no other flames be ignited.

        • Understanding Marriage – the sharing of oneself to the other; giving oneself to the other for God.
        • Understanding Celibacy – celebrates the solitude of the person: Total abandonment for God; Reserving oneself for God

        The Ultimate Christian Spiritual Friendship (pg 11) is above distinction of genders. Cf. Galatians 3:27: For as many of you were baptized into Christ, put on Christ.  There is neither Jew nor Greek, there is neither slave nor free, there is neither slave nor free, there is neither male nor female, for you are all one in Christ Jesus.


        What was confirmed?

        It is impossible to have a perfect human relationship without having an intimate relationship with God. That divine relationship is incorporated and transforms the human relationship.

        In the Contemplative life, the ending goal is love of God -- through love of neighbor and by emptying oneself for the other.

        From other groups:
        Life and death
        Stripping away,
        Spiritual friendship in the 21st century

        Submitted by Duoc Le 11/24/09

        Human love is implicated in divine love

        Bond of Perfection
        Chapter-by-Chapter


        Group Three:
        Brian Rebholtz
        Tresphord Chisanga
        Sung Han Lee

        What’s New

        We were struck by Wend Wright’s analysis of why male-female spiritual friendships were so deeply formative. Her argument, basically, is that in a world where male-female interactions are limited and proscribed, cultivating a friendship outside those boundaries enables both parties to radically depart from their standard ways of relating. It is part of the contemplative process of stripping away layers of self and opening to Christ.

        The “language of desire” and the “language of death” are insightful categories for describing the contemplative language of relating to God. This was especially insightful for Sung Han, who was challenged by the notion of using “death” as a metaphoric process of encountering God.

        What’s Challenging

        Is spiritual friendship the trans-historical category W. Wright thinks it is? It seems to us that St. Francis and St. Jane de Chantal may be developing a very particular theology of spiritual friendship that cannot be applied retroactively to earlier examples of male-female relationships among celibates/vowed religious.

        Is the notion of a friendship “totally consecrated to God” too narrow? It seems to us that St. Francis and St. Jane de Chantal were able to focus so narrowly on the spiritual life because they were 1) apart for such long periods of time and 2) communicating through letters, which is a very distinct medium of interaction. But what if St. F and St. J had lived in the same town their whole lives? Could they have discussed trivial matters like the weather and discussed their lives casually over a meal and still be considered true spiritual friends? It seems that the model being offered negates many aspects of mundane, everyday life as being part of the God-centered life.

        What’s Confirming

        We appreciated W. Wright’s understanding of human love and divine love. Ultimately, Wright argues that these two realities cannot be separated. Human love is implicated in divine love, for divine love is its source, not its opposite.

        Submitted by Brian Rebholtz
        Photo by Joe Boenzi: Brian Rebholtz in class (22 October 2009)

        Tuesday, November 17, 2009

        Forty years of darkness




        Group 1 
        Seung Yong Yi, Joseph Pampackal and Jim Heuser
        November 17, 2009
        Bond of Perfection, chapter 4

        (1) What strikes us from the reading?

        Once more, the prolonged – 40 years – darkness that Jane experienced, and that she lived through with such apparent fidelity is amazing to us.  She seemed to make real in her life the reflection of Francis at the close of his Treatise on the Love of God“Mount Calvary is the mountain of lovers … Love and death are so mingled in Our Savior’s Passion that we cannot have one in our heart without the other.” (as quoted on p. 161)

        The sequence of letters between Francis and Jane when she was on retreat in May 1616 … through which they achieved a remarkable and loving detachment from each other and a closer attachment to God, is very interesting.  Wendy Wright comments that he “who had fueled and increased her love of God was now the only barrier between her and the total surrender that she sought to achieve.” (p. 171)

        (2) How does this reading present something new?

        Wendy indicates, “In the seventeenth century, the image of the perfect follower of Christ was that of a lover.” (p. 161)  That image does not seem to readily predominate today … and yet it is quite evocative and fruitful, and perhaps might be more reclaimed and emphasized.

        Wendy makes the comment on page 162 that “[p]erfect love of God implied a growing independence from the necessity for human support.”  This line gave rise to some discussion among us … with diverse understandings and views!

        “ … one must look to God as the one against whom the offense was committed, rather than to oneself as the one committing it.” (Francis to Jane, p. 174)  This is profound advice, so accurately directed to Jane’s anxiety about the baptism of her grandchild, and so effective in helping her move on.  It is applicable to all of us as well whenever we engage in an examen.

        At their final encounter in Lyon, it was surprising that, while Jane had a profound desire to speak of matters of conscience, Francis directs her to instead speak of matters relating to the Visitation Congregation … and subsequently, due to Francis’ death, she can only make her review of conscience before his dead body in Annecy.

        (3) What was confirming for us in the reading?

        “This evening affirm that you have renounced all the virtues, desiring them only in the measure that God gives them to you and not wanting to be concerned to acquire them except to the extent that his goodness will use you in this way according to his will.” (Francis to Jane, p. 170)  This confirms for us that, while the Christian life involves a daily striving to practice the virtues of Jesus Christ, we need be oriented not to self-perfection but rather to the living of virtues that will make us useful to others in the plan of God.

        Perfection in the sense of sanctity is not achieved quickly … but rather the outcome of a long, protracted struggle.  Jane’s life bears witness to that.  And Wendy indicates that Jane knew this to be the reality of Francis as well: “[she] understood the motives behind his actions and the heroic struggle that lay behind his manifestation of sanctity.” (p. 195)

        Submitted by Jim Heuser

        God-centered relationships

        Bond of Perfection 
        Chapter-by-Chapter

        Group Three:
        Brian Rebholtz
        Tresphord Chisanga
        Sung Han Lee

        What Struck Us/What was New?

        Wendy Wright did a good job cutting through the hagiography of Jane de Chantal in order to show the effect of St. Francis de Sales death in her spiritual life. This allowed us to see deep grieving and mourning within the context of a saintly life, rather than a detached coolness and supernatural aridity.

        We were dismayed at the description of Francis de Sales and Jane de Chantal’s last conference. Francis’ decision not to allow Jane discuss her matters of conscience seemed like a tragic pastoral oversight. We were not convinced by Wright’s attempt to map this action to Jane’s need for further spiritual growth and separation.

        The mere fact that correspondence defined there relationship is amazing. Francis and Jane went three years without seeing each other, and yet their relationship flourished.

        We were amused by the politics of the Visitation Congregation. Although W. Wright does not spend too much time on this, she does mention that Jane and Francis wrestled with the fact that at least one rich woman was placed in the congregation by her family regardless of vocation or inclination. Moreover, because of her wealth she was given the status of “foundress” and entitled to special treatment. This shows that even though two spiritual masters were at the helm of the Congregation of the Visitation, the community still had to deal with human failing and self-centeredness on a daily basis!

        We notice that there is a tension between Francis’ piety and Jane’s piety. Jane always longed for more contemplative prayer and more interior silence, whereas Francis always directed his prayer life into imagery and the created world. Jane and Francis never truly reconcile this point of debate.

        What was Confirmed?


        The possibility of relationships centered on God. Tresphord was especially intrigued by the idea that any relationship can benefit by becoming God-centered, not just saintly relationships. Sung Han was interested in whether or not the Korean Evangelical Holiness Church could benefit from a stronger emphasis on finding God in all relationships and less emphasis on the relational hierarchy so ingrained in Korean culture.

        Spiritual Parenthood. St. Jane de Chantal used numerous images and metaphors taken from her experience as a mother. This was refreshing for us, and it suggested that the life of parenthood was actually a valid and useful model for the spiritual life, rather than something to be discarded and left behind by those who are “serious” about spirituality.

        Submitted by Brian Rebholtz
        Photo by Joe Boenzi: Salesians scholars Grace McCormack, Roberta Brown, Wendy Wright

        How useful it is to live the virtues!

        Bond of Perfection
        Chapter Three

        Group 2 (David Purdy, Taisali Leuluai, Duoc Le)

        What strikes you?
        ·      159-169 Final letter came from Francis
        o   Negative or positive Friendship? Seems like it was positive
        ·      There’s a deep transformation indicated for Jane the final letters
        ·      We sense a very striking stage of maturity of their love and friendship
        ·      Holy Naked
        o   “to give fully to God until God reclothes you.”
        o   Total self surrender to God
        ·      Despite Francis’ death, their love doesn’t end, but enter into a new stage
        ·      Smooth Founding of Congregation
        o   Became well-known
        o   Organic Founding by two inspired women
        o   Support of local Bishop

        ·      Marie-Aymee asked to join the Congregation on her death bed, profession presided over by Francis.

        Question:
        ·      Change in Salutation from my dearest daughter to my dear Mother?  What does this indicate?
        ·      Was this a negative or positive

        What’s new?

        What was confirmed?
        ·      Detachment of friendship is so painful

        Mt. Calvary – Mt. of the lovers.
        Politics of the order
        Spiritual Parenthood
        161 Image of Lover

        170 Says “this evening you have renounced all the virtues” – living virtues that is useful for others.

        Submitted by Duoc Le for 17 November 2009

        Wednesday, November 11, 2009

        Relational or goal-driven?

        Bond of Perfection
        Chapter Three

        Discussion Group 2:
        Taisali Leuluai
        David Purdy
        Duoc Le
        1. What struck us and what’s new?

        General
        • Chapter is divided into 3 sections
        • Author goes into defining love and friendship through history and traditions
        • The second section the biography continues about Jane and the founding of her congregation, this is the time when she’s a novice
        • “Epthemia” is a new term for us – lust
        • “A friend can encourage the practice of Devout life”
        The Language of Friendship
        • Freedom of expressing one’s love…
        • Friendship: Utilitarian, pleasure, virtue
        • Francis suggested certain letters not to be seen (p151)
        • Francis starts using suspicious language p151.
        • The idea of particular friendships can descend into particular levels
        • Discussion on the difference between nudity and nakedness
        Suspicion
        • Human concern, that his (Francis’s) letters to her might be misinterpreted
        • Some of these letters the tone are risky
        • Page 103: Confusion of the relationship
        Further Reflections
        • Do I have a Jane Chantal in my life?
        • Why do we act so suspicious when we read this?  Why this suspicion, maybe because of our fallen human nature.
        • Do I have that sort of supportive friendship in my life that I can say anything I want?
        2. How is this new? (See above)

        3. What was the reading confirming for you.

        Spiritual friendship between two celibates is possible, but it can be risky. While intimacy is possible within spiritual friendships, it remains a challenge at many levels and can easily be misinterpreted.

        Francis’ approach to women demonstrates that Francis knows the psychology of women. He recognizes that women are more relational then men, and are not primarily objective-oriented or goal-driven

        Francis and Jane are real examples. They show us that such intimate and holy relationships can exist. The mere fact that these dear friends are both declared saints leads us to this conclusion.
          Submitted by Duoc Van Le

          Tuesday, November 10, 2009

          Focus on the inner person

          Bond of Perfection
          Chapter 3
          Discussion Group 1:
          Jim Heuser, Seung Yong, Joseph Pampackal


          Wendy M. Wright - Author of Bond of Perfection

          What struck me from the reading?

          Struck by the analysis of Christian view of friendship through the centuries to see the diverse views in the Christian tradition. There was one view of friendship that is distrustful and suspicious and views friendship as dangerous and the second view that sees friendship as an encounter with God and views it in a positive way. Friendship between human beings should be stimulated by divine love and in this sense it is an experience of divine love and something very positive.

          It is striking that Francis guides Jane to focus on the inner person and not the outer. Wendy writes that this was because Francis understood that it was the nature of women to focus on the outer. This, however, is a good advice for men as well in the present context and culture, in which the stress is on the external than the internal.

          How is this reading new?

          Jane had to go through adark pilgrimage with the invitation to abandon herself, strip herself, let go, and finally realize that God is enough for her. At the same time this is the time of the establishment of the Visitation and so a fruitful time for her in the sense of giving birth to the Congregation, forming the other women in a very gentle and loving way. While personally she experienced it as a dark night, it was very fruitful period of life for her.

          Was there anything in it confirming?

          Francis was a product of his time in the sense that he used the positive view of the love and relationship in the culture of his time and gave it a Christian dimension. She quotes him saying, it is very important to consider the historical era in which one writes.

          It is confirming because we are products of history but we can take what is positive in the present culture and highlight its Christian dimensions.

          Relationship patterns for Christians

          Bond of Perfection
          Chapter-by-Chapter


          Group Three:
          Brian Rebholtz
          Tresphord Chisanga
          Sung Han Lee

          What’s New

          Love is the highest virtue, but also the foundation of life. We have many opportunities to express love and love is shown in many different ways. But love is not an emotion or a feeling for St. Francis de Sales, love is an act of the human will. Love encompasses all aspects of a human being, not just emotions.

          We were struck by the notion of working not for yourself, but to give yourself for the good of others. Does John Paul II’s theology of work connect here?

          Contemplation leads to recognizing needs; Work, not for self but to give oneself for the good of others. Failure does not frighten as long as all is done for God’s love. St. Francis de Sales fails at numerous projects in his diocese. He attempts to get quality priests assigned to his French parishes by the King of France, he attempts to open a seminary and a school for the poor, he attempts to found an order of women for charitable service, but all these projects fail.

          What’s Confirmed?

          The ideal person for St. Francis de Sales is one who lives as a Christian in a relationship with the Triune God and the Church, and who cares about his or her place in Civil Society: Neighborhood, Work Place, Family. This is the opposite of Calvin’s notion of the Church being invisible and the State being visible. For Francis, the Civil Society is patterned on the Christian life of the Church.

          Submitted by Brian Rebholtz
          Photo by Joe Boenzi: From the vine came the grape

          Tuesday, November 3, 2009

          Direction that includes joy and everyday progess


          Bond of Perfection
          Chapter discussions

          Group Three: 
          Brian Rebholtz
          Tresphord Chisanga
          Sung Han Lee

          The deeply mystical character of St. Francis and St. Jane de Chantal's friendship is surprising. Wendy Wright attempts to place these two figures within a larger tradition of contemplative, male-female frienships among Christians, but St. F and St. J seem to stand out. They are certainly no Abelard and Heloise. St. Francis even goes so far as to feel that St. Jane de Chantal is union with him when he celebrates the mass!

          The romantic tone of their personal letters is also intriguing. Once again, Wendy Wright insists that the language was understood as "God-given and God-directed" but even so both St. J and St. F knew that they were breaking conventional manners of interaction. St. Francis especially was aware that if others found his letter from St. Jane de Chantal that their relationship would be misunderstood. We found it interesting that Wendy Wright is so quick to separate any sense of romantic fulfillment from the letters. Even without positing a physical relationship betwee the two, is it not conceivable that both St. F and St. J were able to express and explore their own natural longings for human relationship through their shared use of a mystical language of love and union?

          What is New?

          The distinction between nakedness and nudity is interesting, not only for its ribald character but also because St. Francis reverses what we would expect. Rather than make nudity the positive expression of embodiment, St. Francis makes nakedness the positive expression, drawing on the Genesis accounts to express a spirituality of being stripped bare before God.

          Sung Han Lee mentioned that in Korea marriages are explicitly hierarchical. It was new for him to think of marriage as deeply rooted in friendship and mutuality.

          St. Jane de Chantal's interest in apophatic spirituality is new. Her mixing with Carmelite women and her tendency to ecstatic states is a step outside of Salesian Spirituality. We found it interesting that this style of piety seems to distinguish her from St. Francis de Sales.

          Also, we found St. Jane de Chantal's clear struggle with feminine culture and her rejection of beauty to set her apart from St. Francis in a hitherto unknown way. Indeed, St. Francis had to counsel her twice to relax her standards and allow for women to "be a little bit pretty." It is clear that St. Jane never fully embraced the world-affirming piety of St. Francis de Sales.

          What resonates with our own journey?

          We were deeply impressed with St. Francis and St. Jane's use of a rich matrix of feminine imagery to describe the spiritual life. We felt these images were both potent and accessible (even to men) and that they put a new and much needed perspective on Christian spiritual practice.

          Likewise, we resonated with St. Francis' insistence that all relationships can be Christ-bearing relationships if both partners are attentive to that reality. In other words, friendship is in its deepest sense a spiritual discipline.

          Lastly, we appreciated St. Francis de Sales' model of spiritual direction, which was not relegated to crisis-intervention, but also included a wider and more congenial pattern of interaction. For St. Francis, spiritual direction includes joy and everyday progress as well as crises and struggles, and we all felt that this is an aspect of spiritual direction that is often overlooked, especially now that so much spiritual direction has morphed in therapy rather than spiritual accompaniment.



          Submitted by Brian Rebholtz
          Photo by Joe Boenzi: Flowering PSR at Berkeley, 5 April 2007

          Tuesday, October 13, 2009

          Hard work and intentionality


          Group 1 
          Seung Yong Yi, Joseph Pampackal and Jim Heuser
          October 13, 2009Bond of Perfection, chapter 2 


          (1) What strikes us from the reading?

          The chapter reviews a period in which Jane grew spirituality a lot.  Francis challenged her impulsiveness (clear from her writing the word “Jesus” on her own flesh).  He slowed her down, very wisely.  He adapted the spirituality he wanted her to learn according to the realities of her own state and condition with great wisdom.

          It was for Jane a useful time in which she was able to settle practical matters, material and familial.  But it was also a time of spiritual formation.  And Francis skillfully guides her growth to new levels.

          It was interesting to us that some assert that Francis did not give sufficient attention to, or perhaps understand, the importance of contemplative prayer (p. 79).  A related footnote would indicate that he did, but that he saw contemplative prayer as linked with, and an outgrowth of, discursive prayer (p. 225).

          While on the one hand the spirituality of Francis is presented as marked by douceur, gentleness, amiability, sweetness … it is rigorous in its call for the absolute surrender, the “annihilation”(cf. p. 69), of one’s own will.  The cross is clearly not far beneath the surface.  “The crucified Christ had to be experienced by her whole person” (p. 76).  Francis calls Jane to a radical dying to self will …. e.g., in forgiving the man who killed her husband, in accepting the death of persons close to her.

          The virtues of humility and simplicity are stressed, as well as love of neighbor linked with love of God.  These will be hallmarks of the Visitation.

          (2) How does this reading present something new?

          The example of Francis guiding Jane in this period of her life shows that the director must know the one he is directing very well.  It cannot be a matter of just applying some basically good principles willy-nilly.  If the director does not know well the directee, she/he may do more harm than good.  If Jane had remained with her first director (who appeared to know her needs less well), she perhaps would have become a completely different person!

          (3) What was confirming for us in the reading?

          We always say that Salesian spirituality arises from daily life.  This chapter in a clear way confirmed that as we saw how Francis kept Jane focused on her present reality.  (Cf. pp. 78-79, in particular the words of Francis to Jane: “… I am firm in my advice not to sow our neighbor’s field, however beautiful it might be, while our own needs sowing.  A distracted heat is always dangerous: having your heart in one place and your work in another.”)

          Growth in the spiritual life calls for a commitment of a person.  It demands hard work and intentionality.  The importance of a good spiritual director if one wants to really grow is confirmed as well. Intentionality of the person and the good accompaniment of another are two important elements in the development of the interior life.

          Submitted by Jim  Heuser